Have you ever lied to your children or to anyone else? Before you’re tempted to say no, consider Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, etc. Next consider if others have ever heard you lie. I can’t go because of…I was late because…pretending to like someone to their face but talking badly about them when they’re not around. Have you ever been part of planning or knowing about a surprise party? Those definitely require some lying.
If you truly have never lied to your children or anyone else, great. However, if you’re like the rest of us and you have told lies or bent the truth, you can relax in knowing that lying sometimes seems to be part of being human.
Although most of us have been taught that lying is a really bad thing, that isn’t necessarily true. We have many good reasons for lying and it isn’t the worst thing in the world. It helps maintain relationships and prevent unnecessary hurt feelings, and it can help provide surprises for people.
Of course there’s a line that is better to not cross. Of course let’s seek balance and not make lying who we are as people. It can easily harm relationships when done too much and for the wrong reasons.